When an anti-feminist; an uncanny specie in our society consisting of male and female, wakes up from their *beauty* sleep, just to tell the world, how a woman can be suppressed, labeled bad charactered, or characterize someone on the basis of their fate; with a strong believe in their theory thinking that they will never get hit back. Well, they all are totally mistaken now because, every single woman in this society has grown strong enough to bring such people down in nick of a second.
Annie Khalid – A girl known by the alias of Princess Annie, changed the scenario of Pakistan’s music industry in 2005, with her catchy music and unique appearance. She is still, one of the most celebrated female singers even after leaving her career to give more time to her family and a newly born baby princess.
Two days ago, what she shared on her official Instagram, raised questions in my mind. Where were all these people when she got beaten-up by her ex-husband? Where were they when her second-marriage was announced? How come they dug her past when she just became a mother? And what made Annie raise her voice against such mental torture.
This is exactly what she wrote as a caption on Instagram,
“So I’m writing this post with tears in my eyes because I am sick and tired of the abuse I get on social media for my second marriage. YES I married AGAIN! Why do people write ” how many times you gonna get married” “kitni dafa shadi karo go” “maneater” “vulgar woman” “wahiyaat aurat” What sin have I committed? Our religion permits us to marry again after being divorced, our beautiful Hazrat Khadijah was married 3 times, her third marriage was to Prophet Muhammad PBUH. Who is better than her? Who is better than Our beloved Prophet Muhammad PBUH? NOBODY. What bullshit Pakistani culture we have where divorcee women are scandalised and stigmatised in our society. They become “black sheep” or “damaged goods”. At the time of the Sahaba, men would stand in line to marry divorced women because they knew of the immense reward it was in the eyes of God. But in our day & age we are instead ostracised and looked down upon. You men who comment under my posts have some shame, nobody wants their marriage to break, but if it does then what can you do? Would you be happier to see me alone and unhappy? Would that make you happy? What hurts the most is seeing women say horrible things too. I would expect girls to be more empathetic and understanding but how SAD that you also hurt me with your brutal comments. Remember, this could happen to your mother or your sister, this could even happen to YOU. I am sorry for this long post but I had to speak up not just for myself but for all the girls out there who have been divorced. Can I also add how I always read that it must have been My FAULT, something bad I must have done got me divorced. Why is the girl always blamed, WHY? Thank you to my husband Saad who married me knowing my past and not once brought it up or used it against me. Instead loves me unconditionally for who I am and not what I am. Ok I feel better now. Peace (Annie Khalid)”
Here, I feel proud to write about about a girl who proved herself to be head-strong and fought back with these so-called society makers for what is right and what needs to be fixed.
This is her new life, her world. Don’t ruin it by making her look back at bad things that has happened in the past. If you respect your religion, your Prophet and women, try to respect the sanctity of them too. A very famous quote fits well here, Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.
Discuss ideas, not the people. Peace!
