The excitement of getting into a new relationship is always a bit giddy. Be it a new relationship, engagement or marriage, you start romanticising life when you find the person you think is the one for you. Your world starts revolving around that new relationship or specifically that ‘new person’. You start planning your life around them, thinking about your future together and imagining your life without them is so scary that you can’t even think about it.
Fast forward you’ve been together for a while everything’s going great, you guys can’t live without each other then BOOM out of nowhere the other person doesn’t want you in their life anymore. The bubble bursts. You’re thrown into this harsh reality that people can’t stay in your life forever. Whatever the reasons might be, even if it’s their fault or your fault, the other person just doesn’t wanna work it out. You guys couldn’t resolve the issues in your relationship and sadly it ends.
The future you’ve been thinking of, the dreams, the plans all shattered in a blink of an eye.The fairytale ended probably way too soon for your liking. Your life revolved around that one person and now that person is gone. What are you gonna do now?
We women tend to believe that ‘one guy’ is gonna come and turn our lives upside down, make our lives beautiful and most importantly make us happy and when we’re close to having the fairytale we all deserve but somehow everything ends, you see the negativity everywhere, we start blaming ourselves for it.
‘Mujh main hi koi kami hogi’
‘He deserved better’
‘Ghar waaley Kia souchenge?’
‘Meri izzat pe baat aagyi’
‘Mjhe Pyar krna hi nhe chahiye tha’
‘What will people say ab?’
‘Usko toh koi bi mil jaegi’
And If that isn’t enough, you’re going through a bad phase in your life and the society, the people around us make us feel that it’s our fault that things didn’t work out.
‘Ladkon kay paas toh Bauhat options hotey hain’
‘Tmhi ne kuch kiya hoga’
‘Woh ladka hai Usko koi kuch nhe bolega, badnaami Tmhari hogi’
Why us? If the relationship ends badnami ladki ki hi Kyun hogi? Divorce hogi toh ladki ko hi Kyun bolenge? It’s always a two way street and if things don’t work out, you shouldn’t blame yourself or let anyone say such nonsense to you.
My point is women today are much stronger than they were before then why do they let things and people get to them? Should your life revolve around one person only?
Okay things ended. You got cheated on, you got divorced, you got dumped but now what? and I know we cry about how we invested our time, energy and love more than the other person but ITS OVER, NOW WHAT?
Does your life end because of that one failed relationship or that one person? NO! Are you gonna keep listening to gossips about you and people blaming you for things you’ve never done or you’re gonna do something in your life and make something of yourself?
I think there’s always a reason for everything. Some things must come to an end and when they are gone better things are on the way. Not always in the shape of a new person, but sometimes in the shape of new opportunities, new friends and new beginnings. You need to take out time for yourself and find yourself again. Go try out things you’ve never tried before, things you’re scared of. Make new friends, travel the world and live life to your fullest. Life’s too short to cry over failed relationships or people that don’t care about you. At the end of the day, it’s only YOU who should matter.
