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1. A Mess
I am in a relationship with a guy I met online. We love each other. Our relationship is six and a half years old. We are from different sects, but that’s not a problem as I can fight for my happiness. This is my first relationship and his fifth. He told me about his past and I had no problem with it. He’s the perfect boyfriend, but the problem started when we were becoming really serious. I asked a friend to call him and flirt with him. He told me that a girl called, but didn’t inform me that the girl was still calling him and that he was also flirting back. I asked my friend to ask him to come to a cafe. He went and I confronted him there. We had a major row. I punched him, damaged his car, cried and went home. I didn’t see him for three months, but eventually got back with him because I believe everyone deserves a second chance. Two years later he did the same thing again. We broke up again and got back again. He begs, pleads, cries and comes to my college to make dramatic scenes and it melts me.
He has cheated, lied, hit and abused me. He hasn’t graduated yet, got arrested on New Year and was found with a bottle of alcohol. I have cried, screamed, done everything but he doesn’t seem to change. A part of me wants to get out of this mess, but the other half wants to stay back. I love him too much and can never love anyone the way I love him.
Meri Pyari Auntie,
After a four-year-long struggle to convince our parents, my husband and I got married in 2002. Our marriage proved to be an example for others; we were passionate, as well as thoughtful about each other.
Even though I had a full time job, I still managed to sit by him while we had dinner. We always had time for each other and used to discuss every tiny matter. I maintained myself for him, stayed in shape, wore fashionable clothes and made sure I looked presentable at all hours.
Time flew by during the first five years when we didn’t have any kids. Now, after bearing two babies, it seems that the fire in our relationship is gone. I’m usually busy with the children and my husband is deprived of all the attention I once gave him.
Sometimes he complains and at other times he just sits by himself. Once during an argument he said that I may have run out of love for him. THAT’S NOT TRUE!
Please advise how can I be a good wife and a good mom, together at the same time?